Telling the world?

I am thinking about opening up and telling people about our IF journey, our failed IVF's and everything in between but I am scared.

So far I have told 4 people, two because I knew they would understand and two because the asked me directly about babies and I felt I could no longer lie to them. My family, DH's family and all other friends and work colleagues do not know anything other than I have grade IV endometriosis and babies maybe hard for us.

How do I tell people, how do I bring it up in normal conversation? How do I tell family? 'Oh by the way, we have had 2 failed IVF's and one failed FET, didn't fancy telling you? I am not sure how it will go down.

I guess firstly I need to look at why we kept it secret. I think 2 main reasons: 1) DH is very private and did not want others knowing our business and talking to us about private matters. 2) We did not want added pressure from friends/family asking if it has worked and telling them 'No' if it hasn't.

I have found it hard keeping it a secret, I like to talk with friends, I like to get support and open up a little to those I trust, I guess why I have told a couple of people. I have also found it hard to lie because people have asked me when in groups if we want children, when we are having a baby, are we TTC and even friends wh vaguely know about end etc have asked if we will try IVF. I have lied to all of these people, r brushed their comments off or changed the subject quickly.

Will these people forgive me? Will they understand? Will they be supportive? Will they get my desire for a baby and understand IF and all that we have been through?

IF is private

I visitied a great blog earlier about privacy. Click here to read it. It was all about why people keep IF private. below is the comment I left.

I keep IF private due to a number of reasons, poss all you have listed above! Its none of your buisiness, fear, do not want to continuously talk about it, do not want to hear all the usual cliches e.g. ' if you just relax' etc.
I have opened up to a couple of friends and that has helped a litte. DH's parents and grandparents vaguely know we have IF issues, how ever that does not stop them keep usking us when we are going to have kids. If people that know can be so insensitive, then there is no point telling everyone else as the insensitivity will continue regardless.
I am not telling people that we are going through IVF other than 2 close friends. This is mainly because I do not want people keep asking questions, staring at my belly expectantly, I do not want to dissapoint everyone if I do not get pregnant. I can not cope with everyone else's pain when I will be dealing with mine and DH's.
People at work are already speculating though, one person actully mentioned to someone else that they think I am going through IVF. How the hell do they know? I have only just found out and got my dates. I dont even start until July!
Privacy makes it easier, I think.....