Medical report from neurologist is finally here

After a really long wait my neurologist has finally sent her letter to the adoption agency! All the paperwork has been sent to the medical advisor and now we are waiting for the decision as to whether the adoption agency will allow us to proceed. Guess how long the wait will be, yup 2 weeks! I thought the 2ww was over now I have stopped IVF?!? The letter from the neurologist was good though. It stated how I was in remission from MS, no neurological signs or symptoms, how she can see no reason for me not being able to adopt and that she fully supports us adopting. All of which is very positive and has got my hopes up that surely they can not say no? I have been struggling with being in limbo for the last however many months...years...! I am getting so impatient, I just want to get on with this hard, stressful, long process of adoption. This doing nothing and mind going crazy is worse than when I was going through IVF!

The medical adoption forms are being posted.....

.... On Friday! I finally got a call to say my neurologist has filled out the forms, will sign them on Friday and will post to adoption agency first class. My social worker is waiting for the forms and as soon as they arrive will post them to the medical advisor. Pleased that something is finally happening, but it is all so slow and frustrating!

I am back but nothing to report

I had a great holiday in the USA visiting my family. My niece is so adorable and she wanted to spend every moment with me which was lovely. I came back from USA expecting to hear an outcome from the medical advisor, instead I learnt that my neurologist has not filled out the medical adoption form yet! I have contacted her secretary, and they hope to do it the end of this week, maybe next week. Frustrating as the form was sent to her on 28th December 2012! The waiting is frustrating me as it is out of my control!

Adoption medical went fine!

I had my medical with my GP the other day and it went fine! I had to wait ages and then it took about 45 mins! He went through my whole medical history (which is a lot of history!), asked loads of questions and then did a full exam! It was worth it and he said there was no problems and can not see a reason why I can not adopt which is great! One hurdle done, next is letter from my neurologist, but she has already said she will be supportive which is great. All I then need to wait for is the medical advisor to give their opinion on whether I can proceed with adoption. This last part is the frustrating part as out of my control and they will never meet me to see how capable I am!! On a lighter note, I am off on holiday tomorrow to the USA to see my parents, bro, SIL and my niece who is 3! So excited to see them all and forget about adoption for a week!

How hard is it to get some forms signed?!?

So Christmas was rubbish as I worked most of it and have been very depressed. What has been going on the last few weeks - not a lot is the answer! My adoption SW phoned me after the initial visit and said that she had forgotten to get me to sign the consent forms for her to write to my GP for my medical and to my neurologist. I said that I gave verbal consent, but it was not good enough, she would post me the forms. A week later and she still had not posted them, so I drove to her office to sign the forms. First of all, she only had one for me to sign, I had to ask her if there was a second one, she was not sure and had to check. Good job I asked as there was a form for my GP! I feel that I am going to struggle with how incompetent people are and how slow all of this process is! I have my medical booked with my GP 9th Jan 2013. I really hope it goes ok. I am running a few miles 4 times a week at the moment, trying to get my BMI down from 25.5 to 24 maximum and I am really thinking of offering money or even sexual favours to get a clean bill of health from my GP!! I am not only running to lose weight and get fit, I am running as I feel I have a point to prove. Yes I have MS, No I do not let it affect me, and Yes I can adopt a baby, is the message I am trying to get a across by saying 'look at me running, I can do this!" Crazy right?!? My DH thinks so, but it is a great way to focus my stress and energy and for me to feel like I am doing something as I hate not being in control! I am so scared that I wil be rejected for adoption.......

Turns out MS is a BIG problem

We had my intial meeting with the adoption social worker this afternoon. I was very nervous and my house has nevery been cleaner or tidier! There was a lot of questions asked about why we want to adopt, our IVF, our interests, family, support, child care experience. All of those questions were fine until we came to my MS. The mood changed, became quite negative and I started to get a bad feeling. Basicly we can not move forward until I have had a medical with my GP, the agency has contacted my neurologist and then all the info is gathered on me and sent to an indepent medical advisor for review. I am gutted as this will take ages for all the paperwork to be done etc, and so we will not make it on to the February prep course. She said everything else about us is great and the house is great, it is just my MS. It is always my health that holds us back. I also hate the stigma that is around MS. No one can tell I have it, I seem fine and I am fine, just a bloody label.

We have an initial visit booked!!

Things have moved quickly! We have gone from thinking about adoption to information evenings to all of a sudden applying to an agency and having an initial visit booked with an adoption social worker next Thursday!! So exciting and scary how quickly this has moved in the last few weeks. This weekend we have mostly been tidying and cleaning the house!! I really want to make a good impression and get on the February prep course. We shall see what the adoption social worker says. Any hints, tips, advice on what to expect from the initial visit?