We have chosen our adoption agency!

The adoption information evenings have gone ok. The first agency was nice, but would not be able to give us a young child/baby, unlike the second agency, which we are going with. The agency is a LA and so process is most likely going to be longer, but we will be more likely to get a baby. The info evenings were quite intense, saw profiles of children that are waiting and we heard stories from adopters. It's has made us question that we def want to do this and if we can Di this. We are determined though. Now filling in application form!

Info evening in a couple of days!

There I was moaning that time is going so slow, and suddenly I find myself getting nervous/excited about my 1st adoption info evening on Thursday! I am not sure what to expect, what they will say, what I have to do (if anything). I do know that this another small step towards our LO coming home. Will write all about as soon as I can!

Time is going so slow!

I am waiting for our adoption evening with our two agencies. People said they would be here before I knew it. Well, they lied!!! Time is going so slow! My first one is not until the 15th November. I know that is only a couple if weeks away, but like we have been waiting ages! Nothing to report whilst waiting, just getting more and more down and depressed!

Learning what a crap process it all is and worried

We met up with a couple the other evening who has just adopted 2 children. We wanted to get hints, tips, advice and learn more. We got all of that and then some! I was a great night, lovely people, we learnt a lot, but it made us so depressed. There are so many hoops to jump through with adoption, so many potential outfield. They are looking to catch you out all the time. I wonder if we can do it? We want a family. Adoption will give us that family, but I am worried. One comment that has stuck with us is when she said 'they will never be your children'. Is this really how all adoptive parents feel? Now I know she loves those kids, she is great with them, but suing that shocked and worried me.

Contacted an adoption agency

I called an adoption agency yesterday. I thought it would just be a quick call, giving my details and asking for a date an information session. It turned into a 45 minute phone interview! There were so many questions asked about my situation, DH situation, what type of a child we would like, who would be the the primary parent, how I felt about open adoption, how long I would take off work and when I went back to work what would happen to the child. The social worker seemed happy with all my responses except what would happen to the child when I go back to work. I said my MIL is very experienced with kids and she could look after him/her if and when I go back to work. What was the right answer?!? She also said we need 6 references. What kind of references are needed? Who are best to ask? We are going to an information evening on 21st November!

Its all change

Well our journey is changing. I think I am on to plan F by now. We have decided that we will not cycle anymore. No more IVF, no more FET, no more drugs. We have decided we will not get a second opinion from a different clinic. We are just delaying the inevitable. The longer we try, the more money we will spend and the longer the wait to have a baby. We are both trying to accept that I wil never be pregnant, never have a biological child. We are deperate for a family, so we are adopting. I know I have mentioned this before, but we have been away on holiday, come back and have definietly made our mind up. I have sorted through my baby box and given a few bits away and have loads of fertility drugs that I can hopefully sell or throw away? How many of you have adopted or are adopting in the UK? Do you have any helpful tips? What are the pros and cons of a LA adoption agency vs a voluntary adoption agency? I am finding the whole researching on the internet a very daunting experience. We will have a family, it just is not plan A or plan B! Plan F = adoption!

The next step

This last week and a half has been hard since finding out our last embryo had not survived the thaw. I am coping better than expected and feeling a limitless relief that we have decided to move on to the next step. Adoption. I know adoption is a long, hard process, but no more treatments, no more physical trauma, no more cycles. We are desperate for a family and adoption is our way of having a family. I am so sick of my body letting me down and the emtional rollercoaster of a cycle. Strangely I have accepted that we are adopting. Now I need to accept that I will never be pregnant.....